I Never Dreamed…

During the Wednesday night Bible study the question came up about my marriage proposal to Robin. “Will you marry me?” I had thought only one thing prior to that question; “I want to spend the rest of my life with that woman.” Oddly enough, Robin thought the same thing. Good for me! But what we didn’t concern ourselves with were the particulars, such as, where we will live, how much income we will make or how large our family will be. We never thought of prenuptials and we didn’t look for an “escape hatch.” We were in love and that was good enough. In fact, being in love was really all that it took. Believe me, Robin put up with a lot of garbage the first years of our marriage. And if it wasn’t for her love for me and she knowing that deep down, I truly loved her, I believe that the marriage would have ended. The blessing of all this was Jesus Christ coming into our lives and changing both of us. We have been married for over thirty years and we would never have dreamed that two people could have such a wonderful relationship together. I’m not saying that all of our days are peaches and cream, but on the days when I don’t have the peaches, she has the cream. What we have discovered though is this: Our love had to be seasoned with life. We went past the romantic love and went past the “duty” love and now are living in what I call the “committed” love. The committed love entails all that is romantic and all that fulfills obligations and joins with another in oneness. This kind of love doesn’t come right away –it can’t. It needs time to get to know the good, the bad and the ugly. It loves right through it all!
It is this sort of love that God offers us through Jesus Christ. First, you are ecstatic and filled with all kinds of joy because your sins are forgiven and you no longer stand condemned. Next, you begin to labor in service to God because of your love for Him. At times gratitude may be your motivation, but at other times, if you are honest, you fulfill your obligations because –well frankly- that’s what you do. Finally, after you have walked with the Lord through the vales of shadows and He has laid you down in green pastures, after times of being hidden under the Shadow and at times being exposed to dangers –you develop a committed relationship that goes beyond childish “crushes.” Picture the young lady in the flowery fields pulling the petals from the daisy; “He loves me, He loves me not.” That is a childish relationship and God doesn’t want that for anyone. Rather He would have us to be so committed to Him that we never question that He is so committed to us.
I can live with and without many things in this world. But I cannot live without His love. Have a blessed week, Beloved.
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